Friday, August 31, 2007
New Stuff!
Maybe if I start writing more in my old journal, I can reward myself with a *new* journal!
Thursday, August 30, 2007
Bordering
It's just too tempting! I want to start piecing together the whole thing, finally! I want to see what it really looks like, rather than just placing the squares together on the floor! GAAAH!
After laying it all out on the floor again tonight (am I excited or what?), I decided on putting it together now, without the other row of squares. It'll be a lap blanket instead of a short blanket (I don't know how someone can sleep under some of those tiny things!) but it'll be a blanket!
I've moved into the guest room for the time being. I have to get my head screwed on straight(er) before I can start making decisions like... should I stay or should I go... dun nunna nunna nunna nun.
Looks like I've gravitated towards many short, stream-of-consciousness posts. Lovely.
Out
Wednesday, August 29, 2007
Hole!

Yes, the squirrels in the attic have chewed a hole in the ceiling. A trap has been set, but I still hear them skittering around up there. I know there's more than one, but if the maintenance guy traps one, he'll take it to Animal Control to get tested for rabies. With so many children living here (and watching the damn things chew a hole over my head!) it's a good idea to take any opportunity to make sure rabies isn't a problem here.
Tuesday, August 28, 2007
Awww...
Counter Confusion
The blanket is almost half done, and I'm running out of yarn. Dangit, it was the yarn I got back home when we were visiting. I'll have to see if they'll mail me some. The Plymouth Yarn website doesn't list any of my three colors, so I'm a little worried I won't be able to get any more. It'll be a short blanket...
I'm going to scrapbook my crochet projects with scraps of the yarn left over so far. We'll see how that goes.
Saturday, August 25, 2007
FIGHT NIGHT!
FIGHT NIGHT!!!
We're about to go to Buffalo Wild Wings and watch UFC 74 and drink beer! WOOOHOOOO!
See tonight's fight card:
www.ufc.com
Can you tell I'm a big Randy fan?
Friday, August 24, 2007
New Glass
Uh-Oh
Why can't I just enjoy the good times?
Sale!
Here's one of the large granny squares for the blanket:

If you're patient, I can even make you a blanket too!
This week has been a good one in terms of what didn't happen. It sucked in terms of what did... nothing bad happened, we didn't get in any fights, I was able to control my anger a lot better... but I was constantly on edge (still am) waiting for the other shoe to drop, for the fight to explode. It didn't, and I'm more frazzled now at the end of the week than if it had. I'm not looking forward to the weekend.
Thursday, August 23, 2007
The Hardest Letter... Sent
I'm going to go take a nap now.
Wednesday, August 22, 2007
Cherokee
Oo-sdee wah-hi-yah, according to my book. Wolf, wah-hi-yah, sounds right. I don't remember the rest. I wish I did.
The elder was right, though... I've had to fight my way through a lot in my life. Maybe not more than other people, but it started a lot earlier than most.
Crochet Update

This is the one I like.

This is the one DH likes, so to compromise, I'm using both patterns. I don't have enough green to stitch them together, so I think I'll make a border on all squares in white and then stitch them together. Hopefully that'll look ok.
Tuesday, August 21, 2007
Odd Lunch
So, how do you like your eggs?
As Homefront Six says,
Discuss.
Pau.
(PS HFS: Condolences on your (mechanical) loss. That sucks.)
Letter
It's from RSM.
I fly to my door, wake up the iMac with a mouse click, log in. Rip it open, but not too sloppy. The postmark indicates last Friday--fast enough mail for me. One small sheet of United States Army stationery waits inside. It's full of chickenscratch. His first words:
"I'm alive. I'm tired. I'm ready to go home."
This week starts the endless FTXs, field training exercises. Saturday was a PFT, the physical fitness test. I'm sure he did fine, that overachiever. He doesn't mention rifle marksmanship qualifications, but I bet he doesn't want to brag. It's short and to the point, but what with the little free time they have, I certainly understand. I'm just happy to have gotten a letter!
"It's just that with day after day at 100F, the body armor can be a bit... uncomfortable. And when I say 'a bit uncomfortable,' I mean it in the same way as when I say, 'King Kong is a bit fuzzy.'"
Ah, there's his wit. He's fine.
Sunday, August 19, 2007
Weekend
We visited with DH's "adoptive" parents today over a hearty lunch, swapping college stories with their son and passing around photos. They are wonderful people and I'm glad to have them as my adoptive in-laws. I showed everyone the two scrapbooks I made for my real in-laws and my parents, and got an ego boost when I was told I had talent for it. It's fun stuff, but expensive.
On a more serious note, my mother is having trouble with the breast cancer rearing its ugly head again. Yes, again. She had it for the first time when I was 3, and it's been popping back up every so often since. My buddy in Kosovo lost his mother to breast cancer when he was just a little older than I was, so I know just how lucky I am. She's on a new, somewhat experimental weekly shot that's making her lose her hair. I didn't really take her seriously when she told me on the phone that she was getting bad enough to wear a wig, but when we got here and she finally showed me her head without the wig, I was shocked. She's actually sick. She's so tough and plugging right along, acting normal, that no one knows she's remotely ill. The wig is such a good one that people commented on her new hairstyle and nothing more. If you weren't in the know, you'd never suspect she's anything but perfectly fine. Seeing her with such wispy, thin hair really brought it home for me that she's not.
Pictures!

The scarf I've just started.

The potholders I made because I didn't have any potholders.

The blanket for my buddy in Kosovo.

The scarf for my best friend's girlfriend. Finished this one first. It's chenille.
Friday, August 17, 2007
Cards
So we'll see about those cards and how RSM's doing later. Last night I finished another potholder in a different color. I'm going to see about making an oven mitt next. Pictures will come after this weekend, when I get my new computer. DH's doesn't have a webcam, and we don't have a digital camera or a scanner. Stuck.
UPDATE: The blanket is now a lapcoat... it keeps me warm while I work on it. DH loves to keep it so damn cold in the house. Slowly but surely, it's getting there. I know I don't have enough yarn, though. This skein is almost done, and I only have one more after that.
Quads!
There are now 4 people in the world with the same DNA. Identical quadruplets have been born in Canada. How will their lives go? "Hi, I'm Kate, but you may have met my sisters, Ruby, Helen, or Kelly. Which one? I don't know."
Wow...
I was conceived as identical twins, but early on, my twin quietly reabsorbed, miscarried, something. I guess we were in separate amniotic sacs, since I lived. I used to go around with the feeling that if I just turned around fast enough, I'd see someone, or like I was missing someone. Took me years to realize that not everyone else feels like that.
Thursday, August 16, 2007
Card-Carrying Psycho, Part 3
My appetite seems to have gone down a bit, so that's good. I'm not eating nearly as often as I was last week. I hope the new trend stays. I need to lose some weight so I can wear the two pairs of shorts I own... too hot for pants.
I ended up having to drag the cat out of the culvert to bring her back home. This weekend, one way or another, she's going to my parents' house. I just can't deal with her here.
Crocheting is coming right along: I finished a potholder today and a pot handle cover yesterday, having trouble with the Christmas stocking at the heel, and still plugging away at the blanket. I also started writing card for Soldier's Angels Germany... BW got me into it.
Oh glorious cool day! It's only 95 degrees here.
Wednesday, August 15, 2007
Environment
Furthermore, an Invalidating Environment is characterised by a tendency to place a high value on self-control and self-reliance. Possible difficulties in these areas are not acknowledged and it is implied that problem solving should be easy given proper motivation. Any failure on the part of the child to perform to the expected standard is therefore ascribed to lack of motivation or some other negative characteristic of her character.
My father was the one who insisted on the "pull yourself up by your bootstraps" ideology, and often told me that I was stupid or some other equally damaging name when I couldn't figure out the answer to a problem. I was just a kid, for Pete's sake! I didn't have all the worldly knowledge required for many of those problems, and sometimes, I was too scared to venture a guess for fear of being punished again. "[...]nor will she learn to trust her own responses to events." No crap.
On the other end of the spectrum, I just read a post from a friend about perception. It makes reality. A person's perception makes a thing or event good or bad, or neutral. I like to make things neutral. I don't want bad in my life, of course, but I don't want to label as "good" most of the things I deal with. I think that may be a bad course, because "neutral" can easily turn "bad" but it seems to be much harder for it to turn "good". Neutral doesn't seem to want to stay neutral.
Tuesday, August 14, 2007
Thanks, Mom...
Second Time Around
Now for the point of the post...
I was going to blog about that yesterday (jumping Mary's car) but I managed to land myself in the hospital for the second time this month, both for suicidal ideation. This time I didn't even see a medical doctor, never mind the psychiatrist. Apparently the computer "kicked [me] out of the system", according to a nurse. For both visits, by the time I get entered into the system, have blood and urine stolen from me, go through 20 (hundred) questions and actually see anyone, I've cooled down and am not suicidal in the least anymore, but damn cold and ready to go home and warm up if nothing else. Perhaps it's their strategy. Hopefully I won't be back at all, as this is stressing both me and DH to a breaking point. I land in the ER because I can't stay home, feel trapped, want to die, don't know what to do, etc, and then I don't get any help until I decide to go back home anyway. Scratch that option off the list.
So now I have to figure out what to do when I feel trapped and can't be around DH for his own safety. He has at least a little bit of the same problem I do, and finally promised to get an appointment for that, so if we agree on something while we're both rational and loving, he's more apt to forget or decide not to keep to the agreement when we're fighting.
Monday, August 13, 2007
Role Reversal
We went to Victoria's Secret yesterday and discovered the reason my bras suck. I grew not only a bra size, but a cup size as well! Dammit... all my boobie traps are outdated. I feel like I'm carrying around a pair of computers on my chest, always needing new softwear. We spent way too much at that store, in both time and money.
But it was fun!
Thursday, August 09, 2007
Nature vs. Nurture
Linehan hypothesises that the disorder is a consequence of an emotionally vulnerable individual growing up within a particular set of environmental circumstances which she refers to as the 'Invalidating Environment'.An 'emotionally vulnerable' person in this sense is someone whose autonomic nervous system reacts excessively to relatively low levels of stress and takes longer than normal to return to baseline once the stress is removed. It is proposed that this is the consequence of a biological diathesis.
Biology, eh? I guess that, what with DH's natural laid-backedness, and my freak-outedness, maybe we'll have a normal kid.
We had another fight today at lunchtime. I think DH has some issues that need a counselor, and perhaps the same disorder I do... or maybe he unconsciously mimics my screwupedness. It'll be interesting (and hard) trying to get him in to see someone, anyone. He's too afraid of what it'll look like on his military record.
On another note, it's over 100 degrees again. I'm glad the mail came early when it was a mere 98, at 1030 in the morning. Sigh.
*cranks up AC*
Saving Grace
Sean, if it's any consolation, your posts have given me a swift kick in the rear, the fear of real failure, whatever you want to call it. I'm not going to give up on my marriage. I have an illness. It is not me. I will not let it take over my life and ruin it. I can get through this. DH has seen me at my worst, my darkest, my meanest, and he still wants to be with me.
I'm not going to let that slip through my fingers.
I'm sorry, Sean, but thank you. Thank you for helping me save my marriage.
Meme
Three Things That Scare Me
1. That I'll turn out like my father
2. DH's possible death in a war zone (or anywhere else for that matter...)
3. Feeling trapped
Three People Who Make Me Laugh
1. DH
2. Guardian
3. Dane Cook
Three Things I Love
1. Ben & Jerry's Phish Food ice cream
2. Good movies and TV series
3. Animals
Three Things I Hate
1. Idiocy, moronic behavior, and people who won't help themselves
2. Hot water from the cold tap
3. Cockroaches
Three Things I Don't Understand
1. Myself
2. Quantum physics
3. Politics
Three Things On My Desk
1. My crocheting
2. Gatorade
3. DH's picture of me (it's actually his desk)
Three Things I'm Doing Right Now
1. getting ready to take the muscle car to the shop (again)
2. putting on lip gloss (holy crap)
3. breathing
Three Things I Want To Do Before I Die
1. Travel extensively
2. See the Northern Lights
3. Earn a private pilot's license, go hang gliding, build my own ultralight...
Three Things I Can Do
1. Play the piano (and tuba and trombone, and sing pretty well too)
2. Touch my nose with my tongue (and roll the sucker, too)
3. Drive people absolutely bonkers
Three Things I Can't Do
1. Jump out of a perfectly good aircraft
2. Fix my damn computer
3. Give blood
Three Things I Think You Should Listen To
3. Your heart
Three Things You Should Never Listen To
1. Politicians
2. Men who are trying to get you into bed (especially if you're a straight guy yourself)
3. Door-to-door salesmen
Three Things I'd Like To Learn
1. Turkish (so I can talk to my mother-in-law in her native tongue)
2. Knitting (I already know crochet)
3. Computer programming
Three Favorite Foods
1. Pasta
2. Chocolate
3. RSM's chicken francese
Three Shows I Watched As A Kid
1. Jeopardy!
2. NOVA
3. Britcoms, particularly Are You Being Served? and The Vicar of Dibley
Wednesday, August 08, 2007
Tuesday, August 07, 2007
Cleaning Frenzy
- There are no more Clorox Wipes.
- I emptied the (bagless) vacuum canister twice.
- My hands are itching because both the clothes and dish washers are busy, and I can't put in new loads yet.
- The cat is sitting in her clean litter box, purring. She likes to sit in her litter box. I don't know why. She is also, as of today, sufficiently afraid of the vacuum.
- The couch is an icky beige color, as opposed to an icky grey color.
- I didn't notice it was raining outside until it stopped.
- I checked the mail twice.
- I'm very aware that I forgot deodorant this morning.
Now I shall take a bit of Butterfly Wife's advice and sit on my icky beige couch and crochet... just for the moment. I won't worry about what will happen when DH gets home; I'll just crochet away and wait for him to get here. Can't do anything about the future yet, not until it's the present.
Relax, Green. It's just a shopping list. You can go back to the store if you forget something.
Relax, Green. Yes, it just rained, and you just mopped, but it's going to get dirty again anyway.
Relax, Green.
Lunch, Debriefed
We're out of eggs.
So I tried bread crumbs. Maybe that would help keep the suckers from crumbling in the pan. It helped a little bit, but they still just ended up being globs of potato with tomatoes in them, seasoned with garlic and onion and crisped with olive oil.
Lunch was still good.
Lunch
I'm borrowing one of my grandmother's use-it-all methods for lunch today. Last night, I made a menu worthy of RSM himself: his own chicken francese, homemade mashed potatoes (not the boxed kind), and orange-ginger carrots, served with Gallo Family's white zinfandel (hey, we're newly married, give us a break). We have leftover carrots and potatoes. So! Today I will use the leftover potatoes and the tiny bit of aforementioned tomatoes, a little milk, and garlic and onion powder with some olive oil and a frying pan, and see what happens.
Monday, August 06, 2007
Holy Crap
Lots to think about, and it makes me feel like shit. Since when do I have to worry about a child's safety around me?
Sunday, August 05, 2007
Randomizer, Version 1.5
I have taken up crochet. Again. I was taught both crochet and knitting by my grandmother when I was wee little, then promptly forgot when the visit ended. During the summer between freshman and sophomore years of college, I was reintroduced by a lovely woman at the local Episcopal church when I showed up for the Wednesday knitting group. No one had an extra set of knitting needles, but she had her crochet projects with her too, and she took the time to get me started on another square for the afghan she was making for a family in Afghanistan (the irony was not lost on me). Now I'm hard at work on a blanket for a friend in Kosovo. He probably won't get it until he's home for Christmas, but it's still cold Stateside in the winter. He may or may not go to Iraq shortly after the new year, so we'll see. If not, he's planning on going back to school. I'm proud of him for that; he's too smart not to graduate.
My new meds are making me eat like a horse. My appetite is voracious and insatiable. DH and I stuffed ourselves to the point of pain with buffalo wings tonight, and my brain still says "EEEAT...EEEEAT..." like a freaking zombie. Good thing is, I can still feel my belly screaming in overstuffed pain, so that deters me from finding a snack. I'm still hungry, though. Dammit.
I'm backed up on the books I need (want) to read. I have a stack on the bookshelf, in the order in which I wish to read them, and it's higher than it's ever been before. I'm reading two at the same time right now (it's easy for me, I don't get the storylines or characters mixed up) and one of them is a Heinlein. He's always been a challenge for me to read, not because of the storyline or the language (both of which I enjoy immensely), but the fact that he details EVERYTHING that happens, throws in the characters' thought processes, talks about many "what ifs" in the storyline... There's just a lot to read to get the plot out of it. I really liked and appreciated Heinlein's style when I read "Stranger In A Strange Land" (why can I not underline??) because the reader had to have as much of the characters' thought processes as possible to grok. In an action book such as "The Cat Who Could Walk Through Walls", however, it slows me down. Maybe it's just me and my mindset at the moment, but I feel like I'm slogging through this book. Next in line is "The Moon Is A Harsh Mistress", along with some Tami Hoag, Sandra Brown, Mary Higgins Clark, and Orson Scott Card, who wrote one of my all-time favorites (if I ever had to make a list) "Ender's Game". I can't wait.
DH has been constantly downloading stuff for his new XBox. I'm glad it has some things I'd like too, like episodes of NCIS and Invader Zim. He's been playing Uno nonstop for hours.
Dammit, I just messed up and I don't know how. He can see that I'm busy on the laptop, but he just put the other controller down beside me and announced, "I want you to play with me." That threw me off kilter, as I'm busy blogging here, and I said, "Well can you ask me instead of making it sound like an order?" Looks like I just started a fight. Again.
I'm done for the night.
New Friend
Dee and her husband are having their religious wedding ceremony this month, and I offered to help where I can with her dress alterations. I know I can at least take the sleeves off; Mom showed me how when I was little. We've already made plans to go out for sushi on Wednesday. I'm excited; I haven't gone looking for good sushi since I moved here. I know if I get bad sushi, I might not want to try any more for a good long time, and I like sushi, just like my blogdaddy. Dee says this place is good, so we'll see.
Friday, August 03, 2007
Grrr... Yay
WOOOOOOOHOOOOOOO!!!!!!
I'm not overly excited, am I?





